03-05-2014, 04:42 PM
Oh Lord,
I am feeling so helpless at the moment.
My daughter and I first started going to Jamaica starting in 2003. Some of you may remember my trip reports which were about my daughter falling in love with a young jamaican man, who I adored, and who I also grew very close too.
He had a young daughter when we met him and we absolutely loved her.
A few years back, I spent a year in Jamaica. At that point my daughter and Anthony were "pre - engaged" he had bought her a ring and she told him she wasnt ready but would consider it a "promise ring" She loved him very much but was in college working on her own career - Even her career choice of Hospitality Management was chosen with him in mind.
I moved to Jamaica for my years stay and three weeks after I arrived Anthony died in the Sav la mar hospital of Bacterial Meningitis (which he caught in that filthy place!) He was 26 years old.
It was all very hard. I worked three jobs and did not go anywhere for a year to save the money for my year there. You can imagine how many hands were reaching out to me for help with hospital bills and the burial.
I gave more than i could afford but i had to stop.
During my years stay - i would have Anthony's daughter come spend weekends with me every now and then. When my daughter visited she stayed with us for a good part of that time. She was a darling and very smart child. Her mother was a good person who worked hard and kept her children in school, well fed and well clothed.
Over the years Aldene has called my daughter on occasion but she was dealing with her own issues and knew she was in no position to help Anthony's child. Its so hard to know what to trust and while i really believe her mother was a good person it always worried me that her mother was having the child call. It was all so painful, my daughter tried to put it all behind her. Mind you if she had lots if money she would have taken care of the child on a regular basis, but the truth is, she was struggling herself.
A few years ago the child called and said she needed shoes - at that point my daughter stopped communicating with her as she just couldn't handle it.
Now, a few more years later, my daughter is doing a lot better and is managing a restaurant in Los Angeles.
Now that you know a little of the background here is my dilemma. Today my daughter received some texts from Anthony's daughter. She is now 16 years old and she is in High School. She said lost her family in a car accident and her Mother has been in a Coma since last year.
My poor daughter, her heart is ripped up right now. I told her to figure out how she can skype with the child as I believe that is free? She did say she is in High School so I am so glad to hear that. She said she isn't writing for money she just needs someone to talk to now and then. She said she always tells her friends that her Mother is in the States. Anthony (much to our displeasure) used to tell the child that my daughter was her Mommy.
If I was rich I would jump on a plane to go see what I can do to help. I wish we could bring her to the states. I have thought about this child constantly but had good faith her Mother was taking good care of her. She had a big brother who was very good to her I hope to heck he is still alive - I am waiting to hear....
I don't really know what advice I need - i just want to know what would others do after hearing this news?
I needed to talk about it I feel so sad and helpless -
I will now try and contact a couple people on facebook and see if I can get any info...
I am feeling so helpless at the moment.
My daughter and I first started going to Jamaica starting in 2003. Some of you may remember my trip reports which were about my daughter falling in love with a young jamaican man, who I adored, and who I also grew very close too.
He had a young daughter when we met him and we absolutely loved her.
A few years back, I spent a year in Jamaica. At that point my daughter and Anthony were "pre - engaged" he had bought her a ring and she told him she wasnt ready but would consider it a "promise ring" She loved him very much but was in college working on her own career - Even her career choice of Hospitality Management was chosen with him in mind.
I moved to Jamaica for my years stay and three weeks after I arrived Anthony died in the Sav la mar hospital of Bacterial Meningitis (which he caught in that filthy place!) He was 26 years old.
It was all very hard. I worked three jobs and did not go anywhere for a year to save the money for my year there. You can imagine how many hands were reaching out to me for help with hospital bills and the burial.
I gave more than i could afford but i had to stop.
During my years stay - i would have Anthony's daughter come spend weekends with me every now and then. When my daughter visited she stayed with us for a good part of that time. She was a darling and very smart child. Her mother was a good person who worked hard and kept her children in school, well fed and well clothed.
Over the years Aldene has called my daughter on occasion but she was dealing with her own issues and knew she was in no position to help Anthony's child. Its so hard to know what to trust and while i really believe her mother was a good person it always worried me that her mother was having the child call. It was all so painful, my daughter tried to put it all behind her. Mind you if she had lots if money she would have taken care of the child on a regular basis, but the truth is, she was struggling herself.
A few years ago the child called and said she needed shoes - at that point my daughter stopped communicating with her as she just couldn't handle it.
Now, a few more years later, my daughter is doing a lot better and is managing a restaurant in Los Angeles.
Now that you know a little of the background here is my dilemma. Today my daughter received some texts from Anthony's daughter. She is now 16 years old and she is in High School. She said lost her family in a car accident and her Mother has been in a Coma since last year.
My poor daughter, her heart is ripped up right now. I told her to figure out how she can skype with the child as I believe that is free? She did say she is in High School so I am so glad to hear that. She said she isn't writing for money she just needs someone to talk to now and then. She said she always tells her friends that her Mother is in the States. Anthony (much to our displeasure) used to tell the child that my daughter was her Mommy.
If I was rich I would jump on a plane to go see what I can do to help. I wish we could bring her to the states. I have thought about this child constantly but had good faith her Mother was taking good care of her. She had a big brother who was very good to her I hope to heck he is still alive - I am waiting to hear....
I don't really know what advice I need - i just want to know what would others do after hearing this news?
I needed to talk about it I feel so sad and helpless -
I will now try and contact a couple people on facebook and see if I can get any info...