03-08-2014, 03:21 AM
Oh My! What a tangled web we weave.
I read your dilemma last night and because I have so much faith in you I thought "oh well it will all come out in the wash" and went to sleep.
I woke up at the crack of dawn this morning, eyes wide open and you on my mind. So here I am, coffee, two pennies and all.....
Have faith in your daughter, you and her life experiences (and it sounds like she has had a few) have sculpted her into the wonderful and strong woman she is today. Of course we want to protect our children, but alas there comes a time when we can only support them. Your daughter has come through the loss of a young man she loved and she will come through this.
This young girl has reached out to your daughter, for good or bad, and time alone will tell her motives. It will all eventually come to light. Shit floats, you dont need to go digging around for it. Give the young lady the benefit of the doubt, she deserves it, look at the beautiful photos, she was obviously at one time a significant person in your lives. You cant judge a person by a national passtime, that would be like me saying "oh she's American so she's bound to be in therapy!" or you saying "Quick! Hide the alcohol the British are coming".
Your daughter has to make a decision - whether she wants to have the child in her life or not - and if she decides she does, well it will be for the good, the bad and the ugly, she cant choose. Be there for both of them, support them and encourage them to take baby steps, a little bit at a time.....but hey Lovely Lady, you know all this, you are understandably just a bit anxious...dont fret...it will all come out in the wash.
I am sure there will come a time when you will need to remind me of my own words, but in the meantime...
Keep the faith and Love Everytime : -) <3 x x
I read your dilemma last night and because I have so much faith in you I thought "oh well it will all come out in the wash" and went to sleep.
I woke up at the crack of dawn this morning, eyes wide open and you on my mind. So here I am, coffee, two pennies and all.....
Have faith in your daughter, you and her life experiences (and it sounds like she has had a few) have sculpted her into the wonderful and strong woman she is today. Of course we want to protect our children, but alas there comes a time when we can only support them. Your daughter has come through the loss of a young man she loved and she will come through this.
This young girl has reached out to your daughter, for good or bad, and time alone will tell her motives. It will all eventually come to light. Shit floats, you dont need to go digging around for it. Give the young lady the benefit of the doubt, she deserves it, look at the beautiful photos, she was obviously at one time a significant person in your lives. You cant judge a person by a national passtime, that would be like me saying "oh she's American so she's bound to be in therapy!" or you saying "Quick! Hide the alcohol the British are coming".
Your daughter has to make a decision - whether she wants to have the child in her life or not - and if she decides she does, well it will be for the good, the bad and the ugly, she cant choose. Be there for both of them, support them and encourage them to take baby steps, a little bit at a time.....but hey Lovely Lady, you know all this, you are understandably just a bit anxious...dont fret...it will all come out in the wash.
I am sure there will come a time when you will need to remind me of my own words, but in the meantime...
Keep the faith and Love Everytime : -) <3 x x