08-16-2014, 01:28 PM
That little red haired gal is my new hero.
When I was a young girl - preteen (believe it or not)- i used to ride the train into Boston from the suburb we lived in, all by myself or with my big brother who was also a child at the time (Things were a lot different in the 60's).
I remember on a regular basis, when the trains were crowded, and I would be standing up, some man would find a way to rub his package against me when the train bumped and jiggled. I was too young to understand but I always wondered "why would they do that"? and it made me really uncomfortable.
It wasn't until I was much older that I figured it out. Pretty gross eh? This is one of the many reasons we have learned to keep our children close. There are lots of perverts all over the world and I am grateful I was educated about such things before raising my own daughter.
This is why we need to talk about these uncomfortable things - even when they make this board seem less than Irie.
I often would cringe in Jamaica when I see small children are riding back and forth to school in route taxis by themselves. Yes it takes a village and the children are usually watched out for - but you also often see them forced to climb into strange men's laps when the pile in the cars.
I know the parents (often just a mother) are not able to be in multiple places in the same time . This is when the parent must educate the child . If I had known about bad touch perhaps I would have reacted to those pervs on the train.
However it does get complicated . Having been abused, by an uncle, at a young age, I was taught to be quiet, block it out and take it. Future encounters (like mine on the train) were times when i would freeze up and detach from my own body. This is why sexual abuse victims can't defend themselves. They are literally frozen in the same way they were when they endured the initial trauma. If it happens when you are too young to comprehend, all your memories are in your body but you are not able to mentally process them. This is why abuse victims are often unable to defend themselves and why they are repeatedly victimized. In addition to this, perverts and pedophiles are adept at choosing victims. They can tell which ones will fight and which ones will freeze.
Ugh - I didn't expect to be "going there" this morning but this video triggered lots of memories. I tell my story in hope that speaking out about my abuse can help someone somewhere to keep your children close and please do not blame the victim.
When I was a young girl - preteen (believe it or not)- i used to ride the train into Boston from the suburb we lived in, all by myself or with my big brother who was also a child at the time (Things were a lot different in the 60's).
I remember on a regular basis, when the trains were crowded, and I would be standing up, some man would find a way to rub his package against me when the train bumped and jiggled. I was too young to understand but I always wondered "why would they do that"? and it made me really uncomfortable.
It wasn't until I was much older that I figured it out. Pretty gross eh? This is one of the many reasons we have learned to keep our children close. There are lots of perverts all over the world and I am grateful I was educated about such things before raising my own daughter.
This is why we need to talk about these uncomfortable things - even when they make this board seem less than Irie.
I often would cringe in Jamaica when I see small children are riding back and forth to school in route taxis by themselves. Yes it takes a village and the children are usually watched out for - but you also often see them forced to climb into strange men's laps when the pile in the cars.
I know the parents (often just a mother) are not able to be in multiple places in the same time . This is when the parent must educate the child . If I had known about bad touch perhaps I would have reacted to those pervs on the train.
However it does get complicated . Having been abused, by an uncle, at a young age, I was taught to be quiet, block it out and take it. Future encounters (like mine on the train) were times when i would freeze up and detach from my own body. This is why sexual abuse victims can't defend themselves. They are literally frozen in the same way they were when they endured the initial trauma. If it happens when you are too young to comprehend, all your memories are in your body but you are not able to mentally process them. This is why abuse victims are often unable to defend themselves and why they are repeatedly victimized. In addition to this, perverts and pedophiles are adept at choosing victims. They can tell which ones will fight and which ones will freeze.
Ugh - I didn't expect to be "going there" this morning but this video triggered lots of memories. I tell my story in hope that speaking out about my abuse can help someone somewhere to keep your children close and please do not blame the victim.