Everybody's "real" is as real as the environment they are in..
If someone is "shaking there head" cuz they dont comprehend how anything negative like that could happen (cuz it's never happen to them in all their years going there)and this person with the neg exp. explains because of the "environment" that they move and live in...Then that should say it all...
There needs to be no further condescending,dis-counting of one's neg exp just because you dont get the vibe-and your exp. in Jam.is always so "polly-anna".Count your blessings -you truly have a charmed life-..And if you stilll dont get it then try walking in someone elses shoes..spend some time
in this other environment and maybe then, you'll see where others are coming from..The environment one "lives and moves " in may be totally (and is in this case) then the environment someone else does..so experiences will most likely be different and on different levels.. Doesn't make one more "real" then the next.
Just puts things in a different context..
One who of may have a chill lifestyle on the cliffs would not be aware of the lifestyle in a local (out-of-tourist) yard. Just as one who "stays -in the yard" may not get to exp. this non-confrontational,peaceful vibes,cliff-side lifestyle...
No one is trying to make a contest out of who is more "real" then the other..
Our realities are formed by where we live and how and where we move about-
(and ones attitude also factors in)