08-17-2014, 04:49 PM
Hey Westenders,
Nope you didn't really touch a nerve , as I usually don't get very emotional about the board . Ive had enough experience on message boards to have learned to detach. Its just been an ongoing issue - I am always interested to hear other opinions on things whether i agree or not.
I always say - if you don't want negative than post positive. The only times it does touch a nerve is when posters I have known for many years come and talk about negativity and leave. They only add flame to the fire but never do anything to change it - they just complain.
People need to process things and people need support sometimes - when i am dealing with personal issues i google them and read all i can - the good, the bad, the ugly. That is me - I need to know it all. Many people are different and they only want to hear the good - that is how they cope with life. (They are probably happier people than I) Ive never been able to block out things that disturb me - I often wish I could.
LOL regarding masturbation. This is where our cultural differences shine. In the USA we talk about most anything. I have often disturbed my British friend's better sensibilities by talking about stuff that is kind of taboo to discus out loud in their culture. I wonder if this has anything to do with why our frankness on this board is disturbing to you. I can certainly see why it would be.
On hearing you have half Jamaican children I can understand your position even more. I am sure I would be a lot more defensive if that were my case. My daughter is half Greek and I could go on about the Greeks - but I am no longer with her father - I imagine if I was I would be a lot more sensitive.
The important thing I want to stress is that we all can have opinions and they are all valid. We do not have to agree. Many people don't stick around because they prefer more boundaries and rules. Its all good as far as I am concerned. Everyone is welcome to come and go as they please - we are here for all of you if and or when you need us.
Nope you didn't really touch a nerve , as I usually don't get very emotional about the board . Ive had enough experience on message boards to have learned to detach. Its just been an ongoing issue - I am always interested to hear other opinions on things whether i agree or not.
I always say - if you don't want negative than post positive. The only times it does touch a nerve is when posters I have known for many years come and talk about negativity and leave. They only add flame to the fire but never do anything to change it - they just complain.
People need to process things and people need support sometimes - when i am dealing with personal issues i google them and read all i can - the good, the bad, the ugly. That is me - I need to know it all. Many people are different and they only want to hear the good - that is how they cope with life. (They are probably happier people than I) Ive never been able to block out things that disturb me - I often wish I could.
LOL regarding masturbation. This is where our cultural differences shine. In the USA we talk about most anything. I have often disturbed my British friend's better sensibilities by talking about stuff that is kind of taboo to discus out loud in their culture. I wonder if this has anything to do with why our frankness on this board is disturbing to you. I can certainly see why it would be.
On hearing you have half Jamaican children I can understand your position even more. I am sure I would be a lot more defensive if that were my case. My daughter is half Greek and I could go on about the Greeks - but I am no longer with her father - I imagine if I was I would be a lot more sensitive.
The important thing I want to stress is that we all can have opinions and they are all valid. We do not have to agree. Many people don't stick around because they prefer more boundaries and rules. Its all good as far as I am concerned. Everyone is welcome to come and go as they please - we are here for all of you if and or when you need us.