So, I have a few family members and friends going through relationships woes. A few are getting ready to reenter the scene so I asked, where is your list. They all asked what list? You know, the list you use, so you don't fall into the trap of getting over one bad guy by getting under or involve with another bad one, dat list. I shared with them my list:

1. Employed

2. Living independently

3. Not be raised primarily by a women (a woman can't teach a boy to be a man, A mother can teach a son how to be a husband. Some of these guys are always looking for a mama to care for them. A nuh mi dat:-)

4. Must see the value in a vasectomy. With me or someone else you must be able to provide for your kids.

5. Courtship - dates, flowers, even weed (No not that kind:-)

6+ negotiable(adoring, worshiping, 6 pack, rich,)

OMGOSH, they can't believe I had a list and never went on the prowl without it:-).

I like your list and also feel every single woman should have a list of what she wants in a future mate. There is no use falling into the same dysfunctional relationship unless you upgrade your values and traits you seek in a man.

Same goes for a man who is recently single...he should also have a list of what he is seeking in a future mate.

and vasectomies dont always work...check it !! as it can grow back together.

SEEN....lol